[Crow]

I think what happened was judgement.

I judge other people. I judge me. Other people judge me. I am afraid of someone else's judgement of me. Someone else is afraid of my judgement of them. I punish myself when I find myself guilty. I punish others when I find them guilty. I don't value what I have. I don't have what I value.

We learn to judge and to be judged in nursery school. After we learn that lesson, we torture ourselves and others relentlessly.

Don't judge me because I have just admitted that I am not impeccable.
Don't judge others because they choose not to be impeccable.
Don't judge yourself if you are ever less than impeccable.
Don't judge yourself because you are impeccable.

Notice, but don't judge.